October 23, 2012

Investing time with our Father

I read this several months ago in Patricia Holland's book "A Quiet Heart", and have been thinking about it ever since, especially the last line.  How many times have I read scriptures quickly, to get it checked off the list, and then floundered the rest of the day, because I haven't taken time to really find out what the Lord wants me to do that day?
My scripture study and quiet time has changed since I read this.

"We all get discouraged and distracted-caught up in the thick of thin things-no matter how good we are. But do we have time, energy, or emotion to waste on what dress to wear or whose living room is the loveliest? We have real things to think about, things of the kingdom of God. We need to drink more deeply and be filled more fully for the work that lies ahead of us.Let me suggest some ways that this fulness can come. Often when I face difficulties, I need to turn off the phone, lock the door, kneel in earnest prayer, and then curl up in a  chair and meditate, contemplate, search the scriptures , and cry out again and again in my heart, completely focusing my mind on the mind and will and presence of God until I can see a clear picture of him. I like to think of Him with loving, outstretched arms. With such a loving image, I begin to feel my connection with Him and a confirmation of His love. Sometime I may have to work at this for hours, for a significant portion of the day, or for several days.
Now, I can just hear you saying, "Pat, get real. I don't have five minutes to do that, let alone an hour or two. I am exhausted now just trying to keep up with things." I know all about your life because it is my life, too. I am busy also, and I have  been for as long as I can remember. I know what it is like to chauffeur teenagers, face the laundry, serve in the Church and in the community, and be married to one of the Lord's equally busy servants. But that has everything to do with the point I wish to make.

I realize that life has to go on and that you will not be able to pursue this heavenly communication in a completely uninterrupted way, but if it is a high priority and a fundamental goal in your life, you will find ways, early or late, to be with God. If the key to your car or your mortgage payment check or a child were lost, would you take time to find them? Wouldn't finding them provide the peace you need to then go about your day? If God is lost in your life and you are not going to be strong or stable without Him, can you be focused and fixed enough to find Him?

If you believed that your earthly father could comfort any heartache, heal any illness, solve any problem, or just be with you through the crucibles of life, would you call to him constantly? I am just childish enough to believe that our Father in Heaven can bless us in all those ways. The price to be paid for this kind of communion is time and your best powers of concentration, but by that investment you may offset untold hours, days, week, and months of struggle or sorrow or pain."

September 30, 2012




Today is the last day of the month of Maddie. Oh my goodness. Madeline Pascual is a name that you are going to want to remember because she is going to rock the world. Her cup runneth over with energy, intelligence and a good heart. We just get out of her way and watch what she will do next. 
I asked her some questions, then just copied and pasted because her fun personality shines forth in her answers.       

What is your favorite color?
turquoise

What is your favorite treat?
mint chocolate ice-cream


What do you like to eat for dinner?
tacos


 What subject do you like best at school?
DOL which means Daily Orel Language

Who are your good friends this year at school?
Jordyn,Erika,Yuval,Tessa,Biana,Nina,Yana,Eliana and Shilynn,Sophia!


What is your favorite show to watch on TV?
Wizard of Waverly Place


What is your favorite movie ?
Shark boy and Lava girl

Do you have a favorite toy?
no

What do you like to do in your free time ?
Hello, kniting


What is your favorite ride at Disney World?
Splash Mountain


 What's your favorite ride at Busch Gardens?
VERBOLTEN IT'S OBVIOUS

 What do you
 like to do with your family?
Movie Night


Do you have a favorite scripture story?
Daniel


What do you want to be when you grow up?
Well me and Spencer want to own a amusement park

Who is your hero?
the owner of Busch Gardens

Yup. Pretty much says it all. Oh Maddie. We love you.

April 24, 2012

Thinking about Ryan

March was the month of Ryan. Time is going a bit too fast for this grandmother, but we did get to sneak in some fun stuff. Ryan is an amazing young man: he loves to think about things, and is pretty good at coming to some awesome conclusions. See Emily's most recent blog post.  He is athletic: runs fast and long, and can ride a two-wheeled bike with no training wheels. Woot woot!
Some of his favorites, as told to me in a Skype interview:
Color: blue
Dinner food: bananas (this is a boy that pretty much survives on fruit)
Treat: lollipop
Drink: orange juice
Toy: fighting balloon game on Disney.com
TV show: Phineas and Ferb
Movie: Mater's Tall Tale
Subject in school: drawing
Friends: Isabella, Brook, Sofia, Micky, Luca
What he wants to do when he grows up: go anywhere, be a house cleaner (you're hired!)
A place that he would like to visit: my cousins
What do you like about Grandma and Grandpa's house: to play with Spencer and Emma
What would you do if you had one million dollars: save it to go to Disneyworld
What do you remember about Christmas? opening stockings and presents
Ryan, I love to hear the things that you think about. I know that you will grow up to be a very strong man, who knows how to choose the right because you pay attention to the thoughts that the Holy Ghost gives you. We love you!

March 01, 2012

Daniel the Trickster


February was the month of Daniel. What a cutie this little guy is. He always has a smile on his face, and a trick up his sleeve. He has finally caught on to the fact that people don't really know if he is Ryan or Daniel, so he will say he is Ryan, and then laugh and laugh.
He likes dinosaurs, Wii, math games, and likes to make sure that rules are kept. He can read and watches the clock. He knows exactly when things are supposed to happen! He is an avid pre-swimmer; I'm sure that by the end of the summer, he will be swimming laps.
His favorites:
Color: green and blue
Dinner: chips and guacamole
Drink: milk, water, green and orange soda
Treat: brownies, chocolate chip cookies
Toy: Lightning McQueen
TV show: Disney Jr. Pirates, Mickey Mouse
Movie: Cars 2, Toy Story 3
Part of school: recess, playing with blocks and chalk
Season: summer! Pool, birthday time
Friends: Brook, Isabella, Sofia, Neal, Jordan, Micky
Dream Trip: go to Disneyworld with Spencer and Emma, Grandpa and Grandma (Let's go!)
When he grows up, he wants to be a firefighter or policeman.
Daniel, you are awesome. We sure love you!

Spencer's brain


January was the month of Spencer. Let me tell you about this terrific boy:
Right now, at this time of his life, he has pretty much one thing on the brain. You'll be able to guess it before too long.
His favorites:
Color: blue
Dessert: cake
Dinner: Macaroni salad
Toy: LEGOS!!
Movie: Star Wars
TV show: Train Tunnels
Best friends: Justin and Alex
Hero in the Book of Mormon: Nephi
Memory from Christmas: Getting Star Wars Legos
Place he would like to visit: Lego Land
Place he would like to go back to: Star Tours
Something I like about Grandma and Grandpa's house: the Legos
(Are we seeing a theme here?)
He is saving his money for the Grandaddy of the all: the Death Star Lego set, which runs ...oh.. about $400.
He is turning into such a young man. The other day in church, I was sitting by him. He was so reverent; just sat there during the sacrament without needing any entertainment.
Spencer, we love you!!

February 11, 2012

The Battle in our Brains

reposted from Segullah.com. Would love to hear your comments about this!

THE BATTLE IN OUR BRAINS

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Several months ago I attended the Mormon Women Project Salon Event, at which I heard Tina Peterson speak. The title for her breakout session was, “Becoming a Deliberate Student of the Gospel.” Tina has a degree in Near Eastern Studies and has studied the Old and New Testament in their original languages from multiple sources including the Dead Sea Scrolls.

“That’s where you need to be,” I said to myself. So I chose her class. And by the end of the evening, it was Tina’s words that stayed with me most. They hung in my mind for weeks. She so revolutionized my study and thinking that, with her permission, I share what she taught here.

Tina first talked about the mechanics of effective scripture study. They were the standard “should-dos” until she got to #4.

  1. Pray before you begin.
  2. Read, cross-reference, immerse yourself in the texts.
  3. Keep a notepad and pencil near you. Write down every impression that comes to you, without dismissing thoughts that may seem random or out of context.
  4. Over time, look back at what you have written and search for patterns. Trends and themes will emerge. You will see what the Holy Ghost is trying to teach you.
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Wow, I thought. I jot down notes, scribble in the margins, underline in various colors, but looking for patterns, themes, and messages over time? That hadn’t occurred to me.

Then Tina got serious, because we were short on time, and she said, “Now I’m going to tell you what I feel strongly you need to hear.” We were listening.

“The battle today, between Babylon and Zion, is being waged between the synapses of our brains.”

(I’m no neurologist, but I’ve had enough physiology to know that synapses are how our brains process messages. They are crucial to the biological computation of perception and thought.)

Tina explained that in this information age when messages, images, and information are coming at us almost faster than we can receive them, our brains are creating new neural pathways to accommodate the input. The first time we see an image on a screen (we’re not talking about pornography here, although it does apply) – like a blog page, a news feed, texts, or facebook – our brain creates a new neural pathway to process that image. It is the same with new sounds or any stimuli to the senses, but let’s use the visual image for this discussion.

Input always travels the path of least resistance. So the second time we see the new image, it will travel the same route. And before long, the new neural pathway has been stimulated enough to “desire” of itself continued activation. A habit is born.

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After that, when the brain is not currently occupied, we long for that image. That is why we constantly check our phones or email. That is why, when we have a free moment, we click onto a favorite blog, check facebook, and tweets, or any other source of input we frequent. Without realizing it, we have begun to crave these places of input, hunger for them, to the point where they can surreptitiously dominate our time.

Tina said the only way to counterbalance this is with ancient and modern scripture. We must expose our brains repeatedly to the image or sound of God’s words. Printed, glowing on the page, read aloud, or discussed with friends. That is where God’s Spirit lives. It is where His mind and will can rise out of the texts we read or the conversations we share, and filter into our lives, allowing revelation to move through us.

Satan knows the physiology of the brain. He knows if he can encourage overstimulation through an overload of mundane or technical information, he can increase the odds that we will not seek more spiritual sources for input, thus making scripture study tedious.

Recent studies have also shown that when our minds are over-stimulated, we begin to make decisions without considering the consequences. Much of the time, these quick decisions are not the best ones for us. An abundance of “information” prompts reactionary responses and elevates feelings of anxiety. All of this distracts us from the peace the Lord offers through His Word, and deprives us of much needed pondering time – time when our minds can reinforce more spiritual pathways.

Then Tina said this,

“Your time with the word of the Lord is your personal Urim and Thummim. It is there that God will speak to you. Frequent the scriptures often enough that your brain craves that kind of input – that your day feels incomplete without it.”

Have you been there? That place of truly feasting on God’s word? I have. And I’m sure you have too. I love how Jeremiah describes it.

“Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart” (Jeremiah 15:16).

I have also been in that place where I don’t crave the scriptures, because my reading is sporadic, even neglectful. And in retrospect, I can see I have filled my precious time with things that matter much less.

After hearing Tina talk, I realized I can’t afford to neglect my time in the scriptures. I can’t risk being a voice to my children, my friends, or the Relief Society sisters I teach, if I am not partaking regularly of God’s word. Time with the word of the Lord is its own system of checks and balances for me. It’s how the Lord rights me, keeps me on course.

Naturally, the sources of input mentioned here are not bad things. But Tina’s words have helped me make a conscious effort to open my scriptures each day before computer time, reading any other book, or another leisurely activity. I have started recording impressions. And it is astounding the level of happy confidence I have felt. I am still working on the habit, but I’m getting better at hearing as I go. “The words of the Lord are pure words, said the Psalmist, and I am discovering that within them we can see things “as they really are and as they really will be” (Jacob 4:13).

January 24, 2012

LIVE!

When our whole family was here for Christmas, Leslie showed me a website for creating New Years resolution/goals. It talked of using a word to represent what you want to accomplish in the upcoming year. This idea resonated with me, and I’ve spent time thinking about what my word for 2012 would be. First I thought that maybe “limits” or “more” or “less” would be my word. Then I spent a week with Brett and Morena. I learned so much from them during that week, and I knew my word would be “LIVE”.

Live with gratitude.

Live each moment with gusto, i.e. hearty or keen enjoyment.

Live by the Spirit, having faith that the Lord will provide. No need for anxiety or worry.

Live with awareness and purpose.

Morena taught me what it means to live by faith; multiple times during the day, she will start thinking/worrying about something, then she’ll stop and say, “The Lord will provide”, and that’s the end of the worry. And sure enough, the Lord provides. I saw it happen on a daily/hourly basis when I was there. Interesting how you can see it better in others lives than in your own!

Brett taught me about living with gusto. At one point, sitting by his bedside in the hospital, we were talking about things we would enjoy about the resurrection. I was blah-blahing about how I hope there will be musical instruments in heaven. He simply said, “Food”. From that moment until this, and I hope forever, I look at each piece of food that goes into my mouth and appreciate it for Brett. I savor the look and the smell and the taste, and enjoy it the way I imagine he would enjoy it if he could eat.

Corey and Gina taught me about living with tenderness. I will always remember how sweet and loving Corey is with his big brother: rubbing his feet, kissing him when he arrived and left. Gina does the same with Austin. His needs come before hers. We were sitting in a restaurant, so hungry, but Austin ate before she did.

I’m so sad that Brett and his family are suffering, and I want to learn all I can from their experience, so that in some way, it will have had a purpose.

So… LIVE!!